getting offended says more about you than it does about whatever caused the perceived offense.
let that sink in a bit.
has anyone ever said or done something that made you feel offended?
have you ever seen something on tv or in public and been so offended by it?
have you ever stopped to think of why you feel so offended?
is it the thing, the event or whatever that caused you to feel offended or is it something inside of you that caused you to be offended?
the fact remains that there is no one in control over your feelings except yourself. you have the control to feel happy or sad or angry or excited and likewise, you have the control over feeling offended. it’s all on you, and it is a choice you make.
when you take offense to something, you are choosing to be offended and when you make that choice, you’ve opened the door to a plethora of negative emotions and have markedly lowered your own frequency.
your demeanor changes and you are no longer your true self. you are the offended, you are the person so consumed by the offense that it takes over your entire person and you couldn’t be your true self if you tried.
let’s go further.
human beings are ego driven creatures. it is only through being conscious that a person can shut down their ego and allow their true self to shine through.
the ego itself is not who a person is.
the ego is who a person thinks they are and they think this because of the constant stream of compulsive thinking that takes place at all waking moments in the mind.
the ego is driven by fear and fear alone.
what does the ego fear?
the ego doesn’t want you to become conscious because ego and consciousness can not coexist. like oil and water, they don’t mix, one snuffs out the other.
one is negative and the other is positive.
the ego will employ any number of tricks to keep you unconscious while consciousness uses no tricks to wake you up. it simply is. consciousness exists in everything and everyone. the ego doesn’t exist anywhere except in your mind and it knows this so it uses tricks of the mind to sustain itself. it is in constant fear of destruction and like a cornered wild animal, it will attack. the sad thing about it is that the ego convinces the ego driven person that it is defending itself, or rather that it is defending the organism it possesses, when in reality it is destroying that organism by not allowing that person to live in an elevated state of consciousness, where peace and love and kindness coexist. consciousness does not have a spec of negativity yet all that the ego is represents negativity.
before you say, “this doesn’t make sense” allow me to break it down.
the ego knows it is constantly on the brink of annihilation and as a result, it will do whatever it can to secure it’s existence.
since the ego can only exist in an unconscious mind, it will employ any method necessary to keep its host unconscious.
the ego is the master of deception and it builds the host up an image, an idea, of who they are. it convinces the host that they must protect this “image” at all costs. it seeks discord and takes offense under that guise and guides the host’s behaviors like a puppeteer. the person is not in control, their ego is.
why does the ego go on the defensive towards a perceived offense?
because the ego needs opposition to feel at ease. as long as it has created an enemy, it has something to fight against, as long as it keeps it’s host fighting some outside force, it makes the host unaware of the battle taking place inside itself- the battle to become and remain conscious. it floods the host’s mind with thoughts that are negative and in doing so, muddles their thinking and secures it’s own existence.
you see, by keeping you unconscious, it secures it’s own existence. the ego is very clever. it doesn’t want you to notice it because even the most unconscious person becomes a little closer to consciousness when they- even for just one second- notice their ego.
because when you notice your ego, your consciousness awakens. when that happens, you realize that you and your ego are two separate things. you realize you are not your ego. when you realize this, you are able to take a step back and observe your ego and how it behaves, or rather, how it makes you behave. this ability to observe the ego IS consciousness and when you become conscious, you are able to laugh at the ego and it’s behavior. you don’t take it seriously so it dissolves. this is the egos greatest fear because as I stated earlier, the driving force behind the ego is fear and it’s greatest fear is annihilation.
so you see, when something offends you, it isn’t really you who is offended but your ego. your ego convinces you that you’re offended because in doing so, it gains control over you and your emotions, and through this act, it secures it’s existence.
with that in mind, think back to the last time you were offended. observe that moment in your mind now. what was it? was it something someone said or did that offended you or was it your ego telling you to find what was said or done offensive?
let’s get specific.
imagine you’re walking down the street and someone calls you a wicked name or racial slur. you become offended by this act. examine this scenario. what is it about this scenario that is offensive? I want you to really think about it hard. did the word, the expletive cause you harm or was how your ego perceived the word or expletive what caused you harm? what power at all does any word have to harm you unless you give that word power via the perception of the ego!? so let’s say someone calls you a bitch. did the word hurt you? did the person who used the word hurt you? or did your ego driven identity cause the hurt? you think to yourself “how dare you call me that!? I am not a bitch!” and therein lies the problem. the problem isn’t in the word or the person who used the word against you. the problem lies in how you perceive yourself and that perception is created by the ego. you are offended because the word is not how you identify yourself and your identity, according to your ego, is who you are. when someone calls you a name, your ego feels attacked and feels like it is being destroyed and in order to protect itself it forces you to feel offended and via this feeling, it defends its sense of self, its identity, which it has created and implanted into you so that you never become aware of who you really are.
when you are conscious, you do not become offended. when you are conscious, you know yourself and when you know yourself, no external force can change or dismantle you. there is no outside force capable of hurting you or changing who you are. you are one with yourself and your truest purpose in the universe, and nothing, absolutely nothing, can alter that… unless you let it and you let it by giving your ego the reigns.
so the next time you feel offended, remember that it isn’t you who is truly offended but your ego.
the good thing is that you can use your feelings to gauge your level of consciousness. when you feel offended, use that feeling to become aware, to regain consciousness. examine what it is you are feeling, and dis-identify with the feeling. take a step back. understand that it is your ego that feels offended and that it is your ego taking control of your emotions, and remember that you are not your ego. when you do this, you regain your consciousness, your truest self shines through. no matter what the negative emotion is, it can be the key to regaining your consciousness. it is the other side of the coin, so to speak and on the flip side is where you want to be.