autism is a concern of mine….

my darling daughter does some weird things sometimes and she’s been doing one in particular for quite some time. what she does is known as “self-punishment” and what she does specifically is bite her hand. she’s been doing this since her teeth first started coming in and i chalked it up to her teething but she’s 2 years old now and is definitely not in the teething phase anymore, at least not in the front teeth (molars are still coming in). there were other things she used to do that she has stopped doing like banging her head against things. she normally would do these things when angry or scolded. the head banging used to really concern me and my mom who is her primary caregiver when i work. she would tell me, “she hit herself really hard today on the high chair when i was feeding her and i’m worried if she keeps it up she’ll get brain damage.” she would go on to say that i never did that when i was a baby and that she must’ve got that from her dad’s side of the family. he was a bit of a rambunctious kid growing up and really ran his mother ragged but she and i are not on speaking terms (my choice-not hers) so it isn’t as if i could ask her about his baby-hood to get an idea of what to expect from my baby girl. i’ve been researching traits of autism in 2 year old children and some sites list what she does as traits and others don’t. this makes it rather confusing. i read that sometimes, when the mother has XYZ problems during pregnancy that this may result in autism in the child and i suffered UTI’s my entire pregnancy- a common occurrence in most women- but i was taking antibiotics the entire pregnancy almost to the very end and one site said the use of antibiotics during pregancy can cause this in the child. i also read on one site that autism is inherited and one of my nephews has low-level autism and my older brother may have asperger’s. all of these things and the behavior she exhibits makes me worry like a mofo! everything i’ve read tells me to have her evaluated as soon as possible and to not take “She’ll grow out of it,” as an answer from the doc. apparently, this is a knee jerk response most docs give and as a parent, i’m not to accept it and demand thorough testing. in any event, i’m super concerned and since i just started this new job, my insurance has yet to kick in. as soon as it does, my first order of business is to have her evaluated. in the meantime, if anyone out there happens across this posting and has any information they would like to share with me, please feel free to comment and i will greatly appreciate your responses. if you happen to be a parent of a child or toddler who has been diagnosed with autism, please tell me what were the traits your child exhibited and what prompted you to have them evaluated. since autism has different levels of severity, every child is different. my nephew for instance, is a great kid with an awesome personality and who at first glance doesn’t appear to have anything wrong with him but when you spend a great deal of time with him, you’ll notice little things like, he’s constantly moving his fingers, and he has difficulty in social situations, etc. he’s an awesome kid but these small impediments affect him in school and at home and do make his life quite difficult at times. he’s on medication and that seems to help but what really helps him is a lot love and attention. my daughter gets a lot of love and attention from everyone in her life. in fact, when two of my closest female friends come over, she thinks they’re there to see her and not me. she even has a pet name for one of them! it’s really cute! she’s a bright little girl and everyday her language skills develop more and more. she’s artistic too, loves her crayons and paper. she is smart, and loves the flash card apps i have on my phone and she recognizes the pics and says what they are if she happens to know the word. she knows her animal sounds and all that stuff too. maybe i’m over reacting and maybe she is fine but the thought of letting something go unchecked like this, and having it turn out to be true is something i could not let happen. i’m her mama and i’ve gotta be on top of things. so any help the wordpress community can give me would be welcomed and greatly appreciated! thanks all! 


6 responses to “autism is a concern of mine….

  1. I don’t know if you are in the US or not but if so she is still young enough to request an early intervention evaluation (which at least in the state that I utilized for EI) was free. While they would not diagnose issues such as autism, they can address specific issues with treatment. autism speaks is one organization to check out for resources. If you are in the US and are looking for local resources, calling 211 in many areas connects you to a clearing house to provide resources on countless topics.

  2. Hi, I am an autistic adult and have two diagnosed boys and two older yet to be diagnosed. All of us have varying degrees of high functioning autism. Traits – some are so little but a few, Self injury, head banging, totally focused, total inability to focus, flapping, twirling, picking, facial ticks and the list goes on. Ours is most likely genetic with other factors thrown in. I have other family members who have been diagnosed. All of us are intelligent, the young ones IQ tests put them well above neurotypical children. Two of mine are little social butterflies and the other three of us are totally socially inept. It never hurts to get your child checked out. I know it is a label but it one that helps give you information and a direction when any such issues arise. I was told by the Psychiatrist that girls are harder to diagnose and it happens less often. This can be due to the fact that we learn to please and smile easier. As two of mine have grown they and I have all functioned ok in general society but there are many times in my youth that I was in precarious situations due to my lack of understanding and not being able to read peoples intentions. Good luck and I hope you find the assistance you need.

    • thanks for your response. I too have heard it isn’t easy to diagnose in girls. she definitely does things that make me wonder. since it can be inherited I am even more concerned. it is already present in my family. I don’t mind having her labeled as much as I mind not knowing. I need to know for just that reason you described. you know how it is as a parent. you’ll do anything to protect your children. not knowing or not doing anything to find out feels like not only an injustice but also like I’d be letting her down. as her mom, it’s my job to cross all the Ts and dot all the Is. your advice makes me more inclined to do so. thanks.

      • It is a good idea to explore every avenue. I applaud you for being brave enough to share your story as I really believe that with sharing you are bringing about more awareness and showing other parents they are not alone. It may all be just another phase but worth the exploring.

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