and this is why i don’t listen when ppl call me crazy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

so again, i read an article that really ticked me off and while i know i should try to be a source of positivity for the world, and not post things like this here, i feel i must!

but first, let me explain the title of this post.

i was having a conversation with another mom one day and i told her that when my daughter goes to school, i will be fitting her with a hidden camera that will record what is happening around her at all times while she is away from me. (the awesome thing about living in NYC is that we have spy stores with all kinds of gadgets for surveillance and i don’t care if i have to drop a kidney on one of those hidden devices, i’m getting one and putting it on my kid before i send her to school.) the other mother called me crazy and i said “no, you’re the one who is crazy!” messed up shit happens at schools, ranging from sexual abuse, physical abuse to bullying from both students and teachers, and i’ll be damned if i send my kid to school and not try to protect her.

moreover, i heard a story once of a couple who did this to their kid because they suspected their child was being abused at school. their kid would act funny after school but wouldn’t tell them why and they had to get to the bottom of it. as it turns out, their child wasn’t being abused, personally, but their child’s behavior changes after school were due to witnessing another child being abused and being too frightened to speak up for that child because of who the abuser was. the parents watched the video their hidden device recorded from the lapel of their child’s shirt. what they saw was an evil poor excuse for a teacher verbally abusing another child in their child’s class. the teacher ridiculed the other child and the abuse bordered on the physical. why this teacher had it out for this other student is beyond me, but what these parents did saved that other child. they were trying to protect their baby and wound up protecting someone else’s!

after hearing about that story, i knew i would do the same with my child. not just to protect her, but to protect those around her. and call me crazy all you want, after i get done helping her with her homework and i send her off to play, i will remove the device’s hard drive from her bag, connect it to my computer and watch her day unfold and if i see anything that shouldn’t be, i will react!

the link below will tell a tale of a father who did the same thing. i hope heads roll at his son’s school. props poppa!!! you did the right thing and i wish more parents did so too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


i love my perfect body!

i’m 5’6″ about 150 lbs. this time last year i was 201 lbs.

it wasn’t grueling losing this weight. half the time i didn’t do anything and still lost weight!

my advice:

think skinny!!!

it works.

now, where i used to see things that displeasured me, i see the perfect body.

there used to be so many things i saw that i didn’t like, and even more after i became a mom. i was literally obese, according to what my BMI was at the time. i was unhappy, angry even, until i decided to do something about it! i was dead set on losing weight! i started working out with a trainer, being more conscious of what i was putting in my body. i was supposed to do 6 months with him but then some turmoil entered my life happened and i only managed to do 3 1/2. regardless, what we did together jump started my body and even though i was slacking off physically and had even started to be less-conscious of what i ate, i continued to lose weight. despite my trials and tribulations derailing my exercise program, i still lost weight!

eventually, my life got back onto a positive track, but i continued doing one thing while it was on it’s way there.

i kept thinking skinny!

last year at around this time, i was wearing size 14 jeans; today my size 10s are loose on me!!!!

i’m probably an 8 or a 9!!!

and it really wasn’t that hard to do!

now, my body is much smaller and while i may not be model material to most people, what i see blows me away!!!

when i was weighed in at my trainer’s studio the first time, i was 201 lbs. 😦

today i’m 51 lbs. lighter and i’m excited for the weight that has yet to come off to melt away!!! i see myself at a healthy 135 lbs. and i can already feel myself being that small. sure, becoming a mom gave me a few little stretch marks but they’re barely visible and i see them as badges of honor!!! i earned those stripes! i’m fierce like a tiger!! besides, becoming a mom gave me bigger boobs! i always wanted bigger boobs! i’m so glad i never got that boob job at 19 when i was an A cup because now i’ve got DDs!!! becoming a mother gave me slightly wider hips too and i like the way that looks! coca-cola bottle anyone!!! i’m so happy about my body now! i couldn’t say that about my body for a long while but now i am really feeling myself! every time i see someone whom i hadn’t seen in a while, the first thing they comment on is how thin i am. even the fed ex guy was like, “there’s something different about you,” and i just smiled! in the last month people have commented about my weight loss a lot and each time i just feel myself becoming lighter and lighter!

it’s so great too because summer is coming!

i am literally shedding the winter clothes and the winter weight at the same time with the same ease!

weight loss is easy!

just think yourself skinny!


stop thinking about being fat and wanting to lose weight. that’s not going to make you lose weight. thinking like that focuses all of your energy on the things you don’t want as opposed to the things you want. but it isn’t even enough to change, “i don’t want to be fat!” to “i want to be skinny!” no! that is not enough.

this is the tricky part.

here’s where your imagination comes into play.

don’t tell me you don’t know how to imagine because we were all kids once. i’m asking you to play a game with me.

think skinny!


“i am skinny!”

“i am losing weight!”

“i am grateful for my continued weight loss!”

say it, think it, believe it, even if it feels silly at first and even if your grown up brain is telling you to stop lying to yourself,


as your mind becomes full on this thought, your other thoughts will follow suit. before long, your attitude about weight loss and dieting changes. you won’t even focus on it. it won’t be something you’re thinking about because it will be something you’re doing. your earlier thoughts, the thoughts you filled your mind with before, will simply be manifesting themselves in your life. before you even realize it’s happening, you’ll be losing weight. you’ll realize it’s happening as your pants begin to sag, and the sizes begin to drop.


i know because this is exactly how it happened with me!

the sizes just kept dropping and i went down 4 sizes in a year. i know i could have done it faster, and with far greater results had my life not been turned upside down by stress but even that didn’t stop the earlier thoughts i filled my mind with.

i thought skinny and i have become skinnier!

you can do it too!


i’m doing it.

i love my body!

i am grateful for the changes it has gone through!

i am grateful for the weight loss and i know it will continue and i will reach my goal!

see it in your mind!

believe it in your thoughts!

have faith!

it will be!!!



Hooray Hoorah! Transgendered People are Beautiful TOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

so recently I read a story online about a transgendered beauty queen being disqualified from the Miss Universe Canada competition because she was not born a woman.


who would have thunk it in this day and age!?!?

well, anyway, this chick who was once fit with a d!ck, is smoking hot!!!! she really is beautiful and has won pageants before as a woman. when the right people heard what was happening to her, they spoke out in her defense and today I read an article (linked below) stating that she has been reinstated into the pageant.

so, how would you feel if a transgendered person won this competition? Is this an ushering of a new age of what we consider beauty?

how about this:


they often times, most of the time, work harder at being feminine than women themselves. take me for example, I had to make it a New Year’s Resolution to wear make up everyday and I haven’t worN a dress since i was pregnant! so big ups to Jenna Talackova!

I HOPE YOU WIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Neil deGrasse Tyson is one funny son of b!tch!!!!

Neil deGrasse Tyson, in case you didn’t know, is the man who angered 2nd graders throughout the globe when he denounced Pluto’s status as a planet, and relegated it to the ranks of a “dwarf planet” or to put it simply, a rock in orbit.

Neil deGrasse Tyson is one smart S.O.B. and it doesn’t surprise me in the slightest that he went after James Cameron regarding constellations seen in the movie Titanic. Apparently, in the scene where Rose is floating on the drift wood after the ill fated ship sank, she gazes up at the stars in the night sky. The scene is quite moving HOWEVER Neil deGrasse Tyson couldn’t get past a single absolute fact….. THE STARS IN THE SKY WERE WRONG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Neil deGrasse Tyson, being who he is, could tell that the stars in the sky were not the right stars for that night in history so he wrote James Cameron and told him so.  

“Cameron tells British magazine Culture, “Oh, there is one shot that I  fixed. It’s because Neil deGrasse Tyson, who is one of the U.S.’ leading  astronomers, sent me quite a snarky email saying that, at that time of year, in that position in the Atlantic in 1912, when Rose is lying on the piece of  driftwood and staring up at the stars, that is not the star field she would have  seen, and with my reputation as a perfectionist, I should have known that and I  should have put the right star field in.”

So, armed with that information, when Cameron set out to remake the Titanic for it’s 3D release, he wrote Neil back saying, All right, you son of a b**ch, send me the right stars for the  exact time, 4.20am on April 15, 1912, and I’ll put it in the movie.’ So that’s  the one shot that has been changed.” 

So WAY TO GO Neil deGrasse Tyson! once again you have managed to ruffle feathers enough to make people go, “OK OK OK you’re right, I’m wrong, I’ll fix it!”

Ladies, just be glad you’re not married to this guy!

Neil deGrasse Tyson